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New Year, Old Shame: Why Fresh Starts Feel Heavy When You’re Carrying Self-Doubt
January doesn’t need a new you; it needs a gentler way of meeting the you that’s already here. A reflection on the weight of January, the myth of the fresh start, and why shame returns when we feel pressured to become someone “better”.
Guilt as the Guest List: When Boundaries Feel Like Letting People Down
Boundary-setting isn’t cruelty; it’s clarity. The guilt that follows is the nervous system catching up. A reflection on the quiet guilt that appears when you honour your boundaries, and why doing what’s right for you can still feel like letting others down.
The Performance of Okayness: Why We Pretend We’re Fine and What It Costs Us
When ‘I’m fine’ becomes automatic, it’s often the body performing safety, not truth.
The First Step Is Not Readiness: Why Curiosity Matters More Than Confidence
Most people don’t begin with readiness; they begin with a tight chest, a quiet presence, and a little curiosity. For some it’s a small step, while for others a huge stride.
The Relief of Being Witnessed: Why Being Seen Matters More Than Being Fixed
What changes when someone finally feels seen, not judged or fixed? A grounded reflection on witnessing, recognition, and why no one rewrites their self-worth alone.
Where Doubt Lives in the Body: Anxiety, Overthinking, and Self-Worth
This post anchors the monthly theme by showing doubt not as a flaw but as a somatic protective response. It names experiences felt by myself and my clients while gently introducing IFS language.