When you stop performing, what becomes possible? How relational agency begins, why some relationships deepen, and what it means to ask for what you actually need.

Why understanding your protective parts isn't always enough. How IFS and Brainspotting together create embodied change that insight alone cannot achieve.

Grief doesn’t always fade with time. A personal reflection on loss that stays, the pressure to move on, and what changes when you stop waiting to feel better.

Why January exposes old coping strategies.

Learn how to recognise when safety patterns no longer serve you and what small shifts toward agency look like.

January doesn’t need a new you; it needs a gentler way of meeting the you that’s already here. A reflection on the weight of January, the myth of the fresh start, and why shame returns when we feel pressured to become someone “better”.

Boundary-setting isn’t cruelty; it’s clarity. The guilt that follows is the nervous system catching up. A reflection on the quiet guilt that appears when you honour your boundaries, and why doing what’s right for you can still feel like letting others down.

A moment of retreating, tightening of the shoulders or shortened breath is often the body remembering what once kept us safe.

When ‘I’m fine’ becomes automatic, it’s often the body performing safety, not truth.

Most people don’t begin with readiness; they begin with a tight chest, a quiet presence, and a little curiosity. For some it’s a small step, while for others a huge stride.

What changes when someone finally feels seen, not judged or fixed? A grounded reflection on witnessing, recognition, and why no one rewrites their self-worth alone.

This post anchors the monthly theme by showing doubt not as a flaw but as a somatic protective response. It names experiences felt by myself and my clients while gently introducing IFS language.

I used to think self-worth was something you lost, something that slipped away after heartbreak or failure, some internal light that dimmed quietly when you weren't looking. I don't believe that anymore. I think most of us are born with a strong sense of our own worth. We just learn, over time, to doubt it.

You don’t have to wait until you believe you’re enough. This blog invites you to let the part of you that already knows take up space, even when the rest of you isn’t sure.

You’ve done everything you were told would make you feel worth, but the doubt’s still there. This blog explores the trap of performing worthiness and what changes when we stop trying to earn it.

You’ve done everything you were told would make you feel worthy, but the doubt’s still there. This blog explores the trap of performing worthiness and what changes when we stop trying to earn it.

You’ve spent years trying to prove you’re enough, what if you didn’t have to? This reflection explores where our belief in unworthiness begins and what shifts when we question it.

Being busy can be a distraction from change.
This blog explores how “I’m too busy” can mask deeper resistance, and what to do about it.

When chaos feels familiar, ease can feel wrong.
This week, we unpack the hidden payoff of struggle, and how to break the addiction to hard and how to listen to the parts of you that believe struggle means you're worthy.

High performers aren’t immune to self-sabotage, they just hide it better.
This post explores how success can fuel avoidance, not growth.

Your body holds more wisdom than your thoughts.
This week’s post explores how to recognise somatic cues, regulate emotion, and build internal trust.